Allright, I'm gonna break it down for those who haven't tried this and/or don't understand the related pleasure.
There are a couple misconceptions regarding spanking that I carried with me for a long time and I think are the reason so many people hesitate trying it. I am certainly no expert, but let me try to dispel a few myths that I had about this before I learned better!
Maybe I'll influence a couple of you sexy people out there to give it a whirl...or a whack so to speak!
--Myth 1: It hurts and pain is not my thing!--
It doesn't have to hurt! A nice spanking can range from a little tap to a stinging flail, but it's all in what will make YOU feel the sexiest. My Adonis, always looking for new ways to pleasure me, thought I might be interested in spanking and so started experiencing with best location to smack and how much force is pleasurable to me. I'm more than pleased to say he has found just the right spot and pressure to make me moan each time... even when just in passing and not in the throes of passion. For me, it's just at the "shelf" of my butt, as I am fairly well-endowed in this area, and just a medium firmness - enough to make it jiggle a little. Naturally it increases in intensity during sexy fun times, but I don't like the location to change or move about. Any further north or south - even side to side - and I dislike the feeling.
--Myth 2: It's degrading or sick like punishing your lover.--
Not at all. If my Adonis wanted to punish or degrade me, he would be a selfish lover and never care for my little fantasies or desires. Trust me, I was married to THAT selfish guy for a few years. This is a little fantasy that he has experimented with time and again to get it just right for me. He loves to see me lose concentration momentarily and my eyes roll back in my head the moment his hand lands on my tender spot. He finds it especially fun when I'm too rushed making dinner or trying hard to get ready to walk out the door with my two and a half year old to do some taxing chore. He waits for that private moment between the two of us when I'm rattling away in my nervous habit of talking when stressed, walks up behind me, gives me a gentle whack in the right spot, then closes the distance between us quickly to feel my back arch against his chest in pleasure. He gets a little greedy with my reaction sometimes and tries to sneak a few more in when I'm running late. Well... I wasn't really complaining about that... LOL.
--Myth 3: I think I'll still feel degraded or ashamed to try it.--
If you have a lover who is open to trying new things, talk with them about this. I have a bit of a fetish with my butt because I think it's my best asset (teehee). I like my lover to admire it, touch it, pamper it, comment how good it looks in tight jeans, etc. To me, this is just one more way to show desire for it - to touch it in such a way that flatters it into jiggling nicely. As particular as I am about how, where, and when I like it, when he gets those three things down to a science I also feel a certain sort of appreciation and love surrounding it. He has taken the time and effort to really make sure it is pleasurable for me - for the sole purpose of making me feel sexy and amazing. So, quite the opposite of the myth I once had about it.
Hopefully you'll read these arguments for trying out this exciting taboo and give it a try. Or if you already engage in it I've hopefully given you a new appreciation for all that is involved in making it pleasurable for you.
More adventures soon!
<3 Crescendo
